Nowadays, so many people are competing to see who can be the most successful, the most famous, or who can get the most likes and followers on social media. However, this competing for success really translates to competition of who can be the busiest!
Busy, busy, busy! Tasks, tasks, and more tasks! Start this business, join this mission, write this book, launch this website, send out newsletters, plan this party, and above all——–post about it! Oh yes! What is the point of any of our efforts at success if we can’t post it and share it with the world? We just have to let others know how busy we are——right?——Wrong!!!
We are so tired of these overused phrases on social media: “I’m grinding over here!” “Grind-time.” “I’ll sleep when I die!” “I don’t need sleep!” “I’ve been busy doing (Fill in the Blank)!” What we fail to realize is that we are all in a rest-debt—and we are sadly proud of it! Brené Brown posits that many of us believe that exhaustion is a status symbol of hard work and that sleep is a luxury (The Gift of Imperfection, 2010). Being exhausted gets us a gold star from our peers! Having bags under your eyes, needing 3 cups of coffee a day, and falling asleep at the wheel gets you a nod of approval from your friends.
All of these behaviors and habits are not only nonsensical, but “Gulp” opposite of Christ-like! It is great to have a mission and purpose in life, but when we start picking up extra missions and tasks just to prove to others that we “can” do it—–that’s when things become questionable! We have to ask ourselves before we start any new task or mission—–“Who am I doing this for?” “What am I doing this for?” “Who am I trying to please?” “Is it man or God?” If it is God we are truly aiming to please, He commands us to rest. Hebrews 4:9-11, “So there is a special rest still waiting for the people of God. For all who have entered into God’s rest have rested from their labors, just as God did after creating the world. So let us do our best to enter that rest. But if we disobey God, as the people of Israel did, we will fall.”
We should not be striving to add more unnecessary tasks and responsibilities to our plates if it is not completely thought out and orchestrated by God. We should not be “doing”——-we should be “being!” Look at the story of Mary and Martha! You know the popular story preached about where Jesus went to the village to visit Martha and she was so “busy” trying to make everything perfect that she neglected to just “be” with Jesus as Mary was. One chose to be busy and striving for more while the other chose to be intentional in one task…which was to sit at Jesus’ feet!
What a perfect story! How many of us are like Martha? Planning, grinding, moving, shaking, striving….and posting about it? And how many of us are like Mary? Sitting, learning, growing, obeying, and focusing on one thing at a time?
Try making some small adjustments:
- Refrain from bragging about how busy you are
- Stop praising exhaustion
- If you are a “grinder”, avoid shaming people who value rest
- Take a nap
- Take something off your plate that doesn’t add value to your life
- If you can’t have a full day off per week, take mini sabbaths each day
- Remember, busyness does not determine your worth
- When you are producing, do it to the glory of God, not man
- Ask yourself, “Through my social media presence, am I encouraging others to rest or to exhaust themselves?”
- Old Cognition: I will fail if I don’t grind—New Cognition: I will fail if I don’t rest